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I’m Glad I Didn’t Win Powerball. Really!

January 14, 2016 By Greg Marcus Leave a Comment

I'm Glad I didn't win powerball
Powerball now worth more than $1 BILLION by Arturo Pardavila III via Flickr CC

I’m glad that I’ve moved on to practicing the Soul Trait Order this week. I’ve been scrambling around, and need some help to get my schedules and priorities re-established. No, I was not distracted by Powerball fever, although I did watch with a kind of detached fascination. (I was far more drawn in by all of the David Bowie tributes.) In fact, I did not buy a ticket because I feared winning.

My Mussar teacher Alan Morinis once reminded us that for many people, winning the lottery is the worst thing that ever happened to them. I am pretty sure a billion dollars would ruin my life. I couldn’t live in my current house, and would need someplace with more security. Would I need to worry about someone kidnapping my kids? I can imagine people coming out of the woodwork asking for money, and friendships becoming strained. Because of these reasons, I’m Glad I didn’t win Powerball. At the same time, I recognize that I am in a financially secure situation right now, and that if I were living in poverty to struggling to get by, I might take the billion to improve my life situation. I think Mark Cuban summed it up well, saying “If you weren’t happy yesterday, you won’t be happy tomorrow. It’s money. It’s not happiness.”

In addition, several research studies have shown that those with more wealth tend to have less empathy and compassion for others. (Read more here). I have enough trouble with empathy and compassion – the last thing I need is something that could make me less compassionate.

Whoever the winner is, I wish them well. Their spiritual curriculum just got a lot more interesting! For me, it is back to making lists and setting priorities. And, I’m happy to say that this morning I unloaded the dishwasher before breakfast. It always makes the day go better, but lately I haven’t done it.

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Filed Under: Featured, Order Tagged With: alan morinis, fear of winning powerball, money and happiness, Mussar, order, powerball, seder, soul trait order

Second Harvest and the Loving-Kindness Soul Trait

January 8, 2016 By Greg Marcus Leave a Comment

small second harvestAmerican Mussar is pleased to award the Second Harvest Food Bank of Santa Clara and San Mateo Counties with a Point of Light award. The work of the SHFB—one of the largest food banks in the country—exemplifies the perfect balance of the soul trait of chesed, or loving-kindness.

Caring for the needy and sharing our bounty with those who are less fortunate is one of the most essential ways we can live the loving-kindness all human beings have in their hearts. It is giving simply to make someone else’s life brighter and better, without any expectation of a reward for the gift or a tangible “return on investment.”

The Soul Trait of Loving-Kindness teaches us that we must care for others as we care for ourselves; that showing compassion for others is a big part of having compassion for ourselves. When this Soul Trait is in balance, we practice proper self-care so we have the resources we need to care for others.

Second Harvest Food Bank accepts donations of food and money from those who are in a position of abundance and able to donate these things; those who receive food from SHFB are encouraged to donate their time when they are able, sorting and distributing food to others. Everyone involved gives what they can, and those in need of assistance receive the help they need.

This is the true spirit of Loving-Kindness, and helps to strengthen the Santa Clara and San Mateo communities and all of the individuals in it. We’re proud to support the Second Harvest Food Bank, and encourage you to do the same here if you are able.

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Filed Under: eight points of light, Featured, Loving-Kindness Tagged With: chesed, lovingkindness mussar, Mussar, second harvest, second harvest food bank of santa clara and san mateo counties

What About Me? – A Poem About Honor

December 23, 2015 By Greg Marcus 1 Comment

What About Me?

What about me? is what

My soul cries.

I flee from Honor but like a

Leopard it hunts me.

What about me?

I look back and Run Run Run

What about me?

The tears fall down my face as I

Run Run Run.

I stumble, and am caught.

What about me? I whimper

I am gently set on my feet.

I smile.

I breathe.

And I stride.

 

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Filed Under: Featured, Honor, Poem Tagged With: flee from honor, honor, jewish poetry, mussar poetry, spiritual poetry

Mitzvah Circle Foundation Exemplifies the Soul Trait Honor

December 18, 2015 By Greg Marcus Leave a Comment

a01168908ac7bf6f37da7eb88d5902e0 It is with great pleasure that we award the Mitzvah Circle Foundation our very first Point Of Light Award. Mitzvah Circle Foundation exemplified the Soul Trait Honor.

The Mitzvah Circle Foundation helps people who are falling through the cracks between other government assistance and philanthropic organizations. For example, Mitzvah Circle offers assistance to the homeless, has an extensive diaper bank (for both infants and adults), provides school supplies, and hats for the homeless. But what makes Mitzvah Circle stand out are the values that the organization lives.

The Hebrew word Mitzvah is often misunderstood as a good deed. (Although the Yiddish word Mitzveh does in fact mean good deed.) A Mitzvah is actually a commandment from God. Scholars have identified 613 commandments in the Torah, which together provide a guideline for how we are to live our life. Today, it is far too easy to get caught up in thinking of the Commandments as either something huge (like do not kill) or something that only the most observant Jews would follow, like keeping Kosher or not not turning on a light on Shabbat.

In between however, are many commandments about how to treat others with dignity, respect, and kindness. Those are the commandments embodied by Mitzvah Circle. Founder Fran Held explained to me that the Mitzvah Circle is a community, that encompases donors, volunteers and the people that they serve.

While other organizations put together generic boxes of assistance, Mitzvah Circle asks what is needed. “We treat the people we serve like family,” Held explained. “Every individual or family is assigned a volunteer, who packs a box specifically for them every week, and then drops the box at their door.”  The volunteers get to know their families personally, and each week tries to add one item just for fun to the box of assistance. Every day of the week, boxes are delivered to people who live in the Greater Philadelphia Area, and shipped to people across the United States.

The people we serve dream of things that most of us take for granted, like socks and clean underwear.” – Fran Held, Founder and Executive Director

The Soul Trait Honor teaches us to honor the divine spark in everyone. Said Held, “Each person has an opportunity to be a light in the darkness.” Volunteers come and do what they can. For some people that is donating money and goods, for others it is donating their time. But everyone supports each other with kindness and respect.

People were silently suffering in every community. Some without resources, some without the the social connectedness to get through their dark time. – Fran Held

The Mitzvah Circle is like a shamash candle that helps kindle the Divine spark in all of us to shine more brightly. If you would like to support their work, you can donate here.

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Filed Under: eight points of light, Featured, Honor Tagged With: american mussar, eight points of light, fran held, Hanukkah, honor, jewish philanthropy, mitzvah circle foundation

Five Mussar Lessons From Star Wars

December 16, 2015 By Greg Marcus 1 Comment

Five Mussar Lessons From Star Wars
Finn reminds me that Star Wars should be enjoyed but not worshipped

I was super caught up in the hype prior to the release of The Force Awakens. I was inspired to write five mussar lessons from Star Wars.

I was in 4th grade when Star Wars first came out, and my father took me to opening night of each of the original three movies. And my beloved wife bought tickets for the whole family to go opening night on Friday. Given that it is hard for me to think of anything other than Star Wars this morning, I thought I would try to do some soul work with my obsessive focus. So here are five American Mussar lessons we can learn from Star Wars

1. The Spiritual is more powerful than technology.

At the end of Star Wars episode 4, Luke turns off his targeting computer, and uses the Force to destroy the Death Star. For all that this forerunner of the franchise is recognized as a science fiction powerhouse, at the end of the day it is the power of something greater, something unseen that changes the world. Technology is but a tool. It is not like Luke isn’t using technology – he is. But technology cannot guide technology, it must be a human hand inspired by something greater.

The Soul Trait in play here is Awe of Something Greater. On my best mornings, I meditate for 40 minutes, and am filled with a Divine energy that powers me through the day. Five years ago I would have bet you a million dollars that I would never write or feel such a thing. But the truth is, that on multiple occasions I have tacked obstacles that I thought were impossible after a deep meditation. The answer was not found out there, but became apparent when I unblocked my Divine Spark.

2. We are driven by the battle between the Good and Evil Inclinations

The first three movies in the series are about the battle within Anakin Skywalker between the dark side and the light side of the Force. Such a battle goes on inside of each of us every day. We are presented with Choice Points, spiritual challenges where we can pick the good or evil path. Each decision makes it more likely that we will make a similar decision in the future, as it says in the the Talmud, “one mitzvah leads to another mitzvah, and one sin leads to another sin.” Anakin does not become Darth Vader overnight. He makes a series of choices that leads him to become the embodiment of evil. Yet the battle still rages within, and eventually the good once again becomes ascendant as he returns to his Jedi roots to kill the Emperor.

3. Too Much Good is Bad

Yoda caused the destruction of the Jedi because he was too Humble. In the third movie, Anakin goes to Yoda sick at heart because he has visions of Padme’s death. Yoda stayed with the party line that “Attachment leads to jealousy”, and advises him to “let go … of everything you fear to lose.” Where else does Anakin have to go but towards the dark side? Yoda was a leader, who could have bent the rules and helped Anakin come out of hiding with his marriage, and helped him channel his strong emotions. Anakin was prophesied to bring balance to the Force, and he did in an sense because he wiped out the Jedi who became detached from human emotion, and then defeated the Emperor who became ruled by his dark emotions. We cannot defeat the Evil Inclination, nor should we want to. When the Rabbis trapped the Evil Inclination, the chickens stopped laying eggs, and no one went to work. The key is to guide our impulses and emotions, and not let them control us.

4. No Victory is Complete

I haven’t seen the movie yet, but a shadowy figure in front of a melted Darth Vader helmet shows that the battle within is a constant one. Rabbi Dessler teaches that one the Evil Inclination tries to lull us into complacency by telling us that we are done (Strive for Truth p 46). We then let down our guard, and become susceptible to the impulses that lead to bad decisions. We need the Soul Trait of Enthusiasm to keep our focus on proactively doing the right thing.

5. Keep Going When It Seems Hopeless

It doesn’t get much darker than the end of Episode 3. We know that things will get better with A New Hope. Rabbi Tarfon taught, “It is not incumbent on you to complete the task, but neither are you at liberty to desist from it.” (Pirkei Avot 2:16). Moses did not live to see the Promised Land, just as Obi Wan and Yoda did survive to see the victory in Jedi. Each of these great leaders kept going when all seemed lost. And for every Yoda and Moses, there were thousands of people doing their small part in service of something greater.

What do you think of these five mussar lessons from Star Wars? Do they fit with your life experience? Let me know below or on Facebook.

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Filed Under: Awe, Featured Tagged With: A new hope mussar, american mussar, divine spark, evil inclination, good inclination, jewish star wars, mussar star wars, star wars, star wars judaism, yetzer hara, yetzer hatov

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